
The Fruits of the Gifts A reflection from spiritualbreak.com
I want to ask you something before we begin.
When was the last time someone was genuinely patient with you — not performing patience, not managing their reaction with visible effort, but simply patient, in a way that felt effortless and real — and you thought to yourself: that is a Gift of the Holy Spirit?
I am guessing the answer is not recently. Or possibly ever.
We tend to notice the fruit. We rarely trace it back to its root.
Here is something I have been sitting with.
We were taught — and the teaching is not wrong, exactly, just incomplete — that the Gifts of the Holy Spirit are something we receive and then, over time, develop. Wisdom, Understanding, Counsel, Fortitude, Knowledge, Piety, Fear of the Lord. Given at Baptism, confirmed at Confirmation, and then — the unspoken implication — waiting to be earned through a life of sufficient virtue, or learned through years of sufficient formation.
Earn or learn. That is the frame most of us are carrying.
And it is the frame, I think, that quietly separates us from something we already have.
The Gifts are not waiting for our readiness. They were placed in us before we had any idea what to do with them. They did not arrive conditionally. They were not issued on a provisional basis pending our spiritual development. They are already present, already operative, already ours — in the full, unconditional sense of a gift from a God who does not give the way we give, with an eye on whether the recipient has done enough to deserve it.
This is not a small distinction.
If the Gifts are something we earn, then the question I am always asking is: have I done enough yet? Am I sufficiently holy, sufficiently formed, sufficiently advanced on the spiritual path to expect Wisdom or Counsel to move through me today, in this ordinary moment, with this person I am finding difficult?
The answer, most days, is no. And so we wait. And the Gifts sit.
If the Gifts are something we learn, the question becomes: do I understand them well enough? Have I been through enough formation, read enough of the right books, practiced enough of the right disciplines to deploy them with any confidence?
Again, most days, the answer is some version of not quite. And so we defer. And the Gifts sit.
But if the Gifts are simply gift — given, present, already ours — then neither of these questions is the right one. The question is not whether we are worthy or whether we are ready. The question is only whether we are available.
I want to be honest about why this is harder than it sounds.
When something is given to you — genuinely given, not earned or learned — there is a particular kind of disorientation that follows. We are not very good at receiving. We are much more comfortable with a transaction we understand: I put in this, I get out that. Gift, in the pure sense, disrupts the transaction. It arrives without an invoice. It cannot be repaid. And without the familiar structure of earning or learning, we are left with a question we do not quite know how to answer: what do I do now?
And into that gap — the gap between receiving a Gift we did not earn and knowing what to do with it — two things tend to move in.
The first is the mind, with its reasonable desire to be in charge. If I cannot earn this or learn this, then let me at least manage it. Let me deliberate about when to deploy patience and how much understanding to offer and whether this situation warrants Counsel or whether I am reading it wrong. The mind steps in with the best of intentions, and in doing so, becomes a kind of intermediary between the Gift and the moment it was given for. The ego, trying to be helpful, ends up being an obstacle.
The second is something subtler. A quiet resistance that does not quite believe the Gifts are a natural part of us. That they belong to another category of person — holier, more practiced, more naturally contemplative. That when something like Wisdom or Fortitude moves through us, it must have been an accident, or someone else’s prayer on our behalf, or a good day we happened to be having. We discount it. We explain it away. We keep it at arm’s length, because to claim it as ours would feel, somehow, presumptuous.
Both of these — the deliberating mind and the resisting heart — have the same effect. They separate us from what was given. Not maliciously. Not even consciously. Just by inserting something between us and the Gift that was never supposed to be there.
What I find most striking is that this separation is not a spiritual failure. It is almost a spiritual inevitability, given how we have been formed.
We have been taught to work for what we receive. We have been shaped by communities that, with genuine love and genuine theological seriousness, emphasized the importance of formation, practice, and growth. None of that is wrong. But somewhere in the transmission, the Gifts got quietly reclassified as achievements rather than endowments. And once that happened, we started approaching our own spiritual inheritance with the posture of a student rather than the posture of a recipient.
The student asks: am I getting this right?
The recipient asks: what is being given here, right now, that I might allow through?
The fruits — love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control — are what emerge when the Gifts are unobstructed. They are not produced by trying. They are not the reward for getting the practice right. They are what naturally appears when something that was always present stops being blocked.
The question Sacred Noticing puts to me, every day, is a simple one.
What did I put between myself and the Gift today?
Was it the deliberating mind, calculating whether this was the right moment and whether I had enough spiritual capital to offer something real? Was it the quiet disbelief that Wisdom or Counsel could actually be mine to offer, in this unremarkable moment, to this ordinary person in front of me?
Or did I, even briefly, get out of the way?
I do not think this is a question that generates answers so much as attention. Which is perhaps where it wants to leave us.
The Gifts are present.
They have always been present.
They are waiting not for our readiness but for our willingness to stop standing between them and the moment they were given for.
What would it mean to simply let them through?
Add ten seconds to each moment, And my response would be better, kinder, warmer, more forgiving, than my first.
But can I ever be as loving as He is to me?
— Michael Cunningham OFS
Michael J. Cunningham, OFS, D.Min. is the author of The Practice of Sacred Noticing: Transforming Your Spiritual Footprint (Contemplative Company, 2026) and Executive Director of San Damiano Franciscan Retreat Center in Danville, California. Weekly reflections at spiritualbreak.com.
