A Liminal Space

Thinking in a Liminal Space

I remember when I first heard the words liminal space. The first thing I had to do was to look up what that actually meant. Here is the Merriam webster’s definition.

occupying a position at, or on both sides of, a boundary or threshold.

“I was in the liminal space between past and present”

relating to a transitional or initial stage of a process.

“that liminal period when a child is old enough to begin following basic rules but is still too young to do so consistently”


In the theological and spiritual world we often describe the liminal space as this place of uncertainty, place which might be holding place, a place of transition, decision point, and frequently a place of concern and worry.

Somewhere where we’re not sure what should happen next. Not often when we don’t have any control or don’t appear to have any control of next steps and direction.

Holy Saturday can be considered one of the most profound liminal spaces in our Christian tradition. If we place ourselves in the moment of holy Saturday, at the time of the passion of Jesus Christ, we don’t know what’s going to happen next. Was he a prophet with authority? Was he the Messiah? Is it all over now? What comes next? He was persecuted and I was a follower, am I next on the persecution list? These might be some of the thoughts going through the minds of Christ’s followers in the space just after his crucifixion.

Because we know the outcome it might be difficult for us to consider this liminal space for those that were around at the time. They were suspended between death and resurrection, between despair and hope, the old way and what was to come.

While holy Saturday is a good reference point for us to illustrate a liminal space in the Christian tradition. We have all probably entered liminal moments in our lives, the circumstances being different to Holy Saturday but the feelings and the effect being similar, or at least something we can relate.

In this threshold space, thoughts become fragmented and uncertain. The mind struggles to make meaning when the narrative has been violently interrupted. Consider how the disciples might have experienced this day:

The weight of absence: “He left us.” After following Jesus for years, building their identity around his presence, his absence creates a void that can’t be filled. The teacher, friend, and leader is gone, leaving only questions.

Faith under pressure: “Was He the messiah or just another prophet?” Everything they believed is now tested. Without the resurrection to validate their faith, doubt seeps into every memory and teaching.

Fear becoming tangible: “He was crucified. Will I be?” The threat of sharing Jesus’ fate would have been real. His followers might wonder if they too would be branded as “blasphemers” facing “retribution.”

Cognitive dissonance: “What should I think? What should I believe?” The mind struggles to reconcile what was promised with the reality of the cross. The frameworks for understanding have collapsed.

This liminal space forces a confrontation with our deepest attachments and beliefs. All the disciples and followers have only “word of mouth news reports” – rumors, confusion, contradicting accounts. Without certainty, without “videos” or proof, one is left with the raw experience of loss.

Yet something remains in this emptiness: “Creation, love, care, witness.” The world continues to exist. Relationships endure. The capacity to care remains when all else seems lost. This liminal space invites us to “reflect, discern, renew, trust, believe” – not because certainty has returned, but because waiting in uncertainty is a spiritual practice.

Holy Saturday teaches us that liminal spaces, while disorienting, can be fertile ground. When we step “into the unknown” without guarantees, we discover what remains when certainty is stripped away. This is where fertile ground awaits us: if we dare enter this territory.

Copyright Image and Reflection Michael J. Cunningham 2025

No Matter What

No Matter What

Have you ever thought about what “no matter what” really means? We say it often – to our children, to our loved ones, sometimes even to ourselves. But do we truly grasp the depth of that promise? It’s easy to love when the sun is shining, when life flows smoothly like a gentle stream. But unconditional love asks for more.

This kind of love doesn’t pause to check the weather. It doesn’t measure the temperature of the room before entering. It simply is. Present. Constant. Unwavering. Like the sacred space within us that holds the divine, this love creates a sanctuary that remains intact through every storm.

Most times, we struggle with this concept because we’ve learned to put conditions on everything. If you do this, then I’ll do that. If you meet these expectations, then you’ll receive this reward. But real unconditional love throws away the rulebook. It doesn’t keep score or maintain an internal ledger of rights and wrongs.

Consider, for a moment, how God’s love operates. It doesn’t diminish as we stumble. It doesn’t withdraw when we question. It doesn’t fade when we forget to look up and acknowledge God’s presence. Like the air we breathe, it simply continues to sustain us, asking nothing in return except that we allow ourselves to receive it. And, it takes some effort to avoid breathing!

This is the kind of love that Francis of Assisi embodied when he embraced the leper, when he spoke to the wolf of Gubbio, when he called the sun his brother and the moon his sister. He understood that love transcends our human categories and conditions. It flows freely, like living water, nourishing everything it touches.

Perhaps the greatest challenge isn’t in giving this kind of love – though that’s certainly difficult enough – but in accepting it. In believing that we are worthy of being loved “no matter what.” In trusting that the love will remain even when we can’t see it through our tears or feel it through our pain.

Take a moment to reflect: When was the last time you allowed yourself to be loved unconditionally? Without trying to earn it, deserve it, or repay it? This is the gift we’re all offered, waiting to be unwrapped every single day.

Copyright Image and Reflection Michael J. Cunningham 2024

The Heart’s Wisdom

The Heart’s Wisdom in Difficult Moments

In the Christian contemplative tradition, a sacred space exists between reaction and response—a moment where wisdom emerges in the pause between our thoughts. This pause becomes our sanctuary of discernment when faced with persecution or intimidation.

The Dance of Grace and Truth

As spiritualbreak.com reminds us, harmony often emerges in the space between our breaths. This truth becomes especially vital when navigating challenging encounters. The key lies not in choosing between kindness and firmness, but in allowing both to flow from a heart aligned with Christ’s teachings.

The Power of Heart-Centered Response

Recent scientific discoveries have shown that the heart is more powerful than previously thought, but those of us walking in faith have always known this truth. When we respond from a heart centered in Christ’s love, we naturally find the balance between gentle strength and unwavering truth.

Consider these heart-centered approaches:

  1. Pause and Reflect
    Before responding to hostility, create that sacred space where wisdom dwells. Let your response emerge from a place of centered peace rather than reactive fear.
  2. Speak Truth with Open Hearts
    As we learn from spiritual wisdom, an opening of hearts is the only way to open a mind. When we speak truth from this place, we maintain our integrity and compassion.
  3. Leave a Positive Trace
    Every interaction leaves what we might call a spiritual trace—something that remains after our encounter with another. Choose to leave behind evidence of Christ’s love, even in difficult moments.

Living the Balance

The path of Christ-like response requires neither passive acceptance nor aggressive defense. Instead, it calls us to stand firmly in truth while remaining rooted in love. This might mean:

  • Setting clear boundaries with gentle determination
  • Speaking truth without attacking
  • Maintaining dignity without pride
  • Showing compassion without compromising principles

A Moment of Prayer

Divine Master, grant us the wisdom to recognize the space between stimulus and response as holy ground. Help us stand firm in Your truth while radiating Your love. May our responses to difficulty reflect Your perfect balance of grace and truth. Amen.

Remember: Our strength lies not in our ability to overpower others, but in our capacity to remain anchored in Christ’s love while standing firm in His truth. This is the way of transformative response—one that changes ourselves and, potentially, those who oppose us.

Finding Inner Harmony: Lessons from mystics and Dolphins

Harmony: An instrument of Change

In the gentle whispers of dawn, when the world seems most at peace, we often find ourselves searching for that elusive sense of harmony that seems to be just beyond our grasp. The dolphins, magnificent creatures of God’s creation, show us daily what it means to live in perfect accord with their environment and each other. They seem to emulate grace in their movement and behavior towards each other. A grace that speaks to us of a more profound truth. Once that, mystics have sought to capture in words and prayer throughout the ages.

St. Francis of Assisi, in his Canticle of the Sun, spoke of harmony with all creation – Brother Sun, Sister Moon, and even Sister Death. He understood that harmony wasn’t just about peaceful coexistence but also recognizing the divine thread connecting all living things. This Franciscan vision of universal kinship calls us to see harmony not as an end goal but as a way of being in the world.

Consider Molly, sitting at her kitchen table early one morning, tears falling silently onto a recently placed plate. The weight of yesterday’s harsh words with her daughter feels like a stone in her heart. If she was present, the mystic Julian of Norwich might tell her, “All shall be well, and all manner of thing shall be well.” But how does Sarah find her way to that place of harmony?

Perhaps the answer lies in how dolphins move through the water – not fighting the current, but finding their path within it. The 13th-century Angela of Foligno would understand Sarah’s pain. She spoke of finding God not despite our suffering but through it. The harmony we seek isn’t about erasing our feelings but about weaving them into a bigger tapestry. The tapestry of our lives.

In the Christian contemplative tradition, harmony often emerges in the space between our breaths, in the pause between our thoughts. The Desert Fathers and Mothers knew this well. They sought not to escape the world’s discord, but to find the underlying harmony beneath it all. Meister Eckhart preached that this harmony already exists within us – we need only to clear away what is blocking us from experiencing it.

For Molly, harmony might begin with acknowledging the love which is the underbelly, that underlying her pain. The very depth of her hurt speaks to the intensity of her connection with her daughter. Like the dolphins who never truly sleep but rest one hemisphere of their brain at a time, she can hold both her sadness and her hope in a delicate balance.

St. Clare of Assisi, who understood the power of contemplative harmony, might guide Sarah to her mirror – not the physical one on her wall, but the mirror of Christ’s love in her heart. There, she might see that harmony doesn’t require perfect conditions. It requires only our willingness to remain open to grace, even in our brokenness; particularly when we feel broken.

As the morning light grows stronger, Molly finds that harmony isn’t about returning to yesterday’s peace. It’s about finding today’s rhythm, even if it comes with tears. The dolphins know this – each day brings its own song, its own dance, its own way of moving through the waters.

Molly’s Dawn

The morning coffee grows cold

And memories of yesterday’s storm

Ripple across the surface of the lake which is her mind.

She watches sparrows outside the window,

Their morning dance is a reminder

That harmony doesn’t require perfection.

As they stumble around looking for seeds of nourishment.

Meanwhile, Molly looks inside for

movement.

breath.

Just the courage to begin again.

Her tears now mixed with a purpose,

As rain joining the sea,

Finding its way home to something larger,

An ocean of love.

This is how we learn to swim

In deeper waters,

Where harmony isn’t just a word

But a way of being.

Molly rises,

Picking up her phone,

Typing: “I love you, even when we disagree.”

And waits.

The dolphins would understand –

How the pod moves as one

Through both calm seas and storms,

Never losing their song.

Theory U and Spiritual Change

The imperceptible Steps of Change

Otto Scharmer a lecturer at the Sloan School of Management at MIT seems like an unlikely candidate to raise at the beginning of a reflection. However, it is here that I begin a story today. Scharmer, an expert in change management, developed this theory after examining the behavior of 150 organizations that had been immensely successful in the development of new products and services but more particularly, had been successful in changing their direction for the better.

His theory has some very interesting outcomes. I say his theory, but the theory is the consolidated best practices of the organizations he researched. There are some incredible similarities to the changes individuals make on their own spiritual journeys, not just in outcomes but the strategies, means, and methods to achieve them. Let me explain.

The Theory of U has the following purpose, at least from a management perspective. Here is a definition of that purpose.

“The principles of Theory U are suggested to help political leaders, civil servants, and managers break through past unproductive patterns of behavior that prevent them from empathizing with their clients’ perspectives and often lock them into ineffective patterns of decision making.”

Immediately, we see the similarities here with the mystical path, or the spiritual journey. Where we are trying to break from prior behaviors and patterns and move forward in our journeys to a deeper relationship with God.

Some of the keywords in this purpose are “breakthrough past unproductive patterns of behavior that prevent them from empathizing with their clients’ perspectives and often lock them into ineffective patterns of decision making”

In Theory U, Scharmer has six steps, amazingly close to the various steps we all need to take to move to the Contemplative Way, particularly as articulated by the spiritual Masters and more recently by Fr. Thomas Keating in his book Open Mind, Open Heart. Before going there, let me spend a moment reviewing the steps in Theory U and how they relate to our journeys.

  1. Holding the space: listen to what life calls you to do (listen to oneself, to others and make sure that there is space where people can talk)
  2. Observing: Attend with your mind wide open (observe without your voice of judgment, effectively suspending past cognitive schema)
  3. Sensing: Connect with your heart and facilitate the opening process (i.e. see things as interconnected wholes)
  4. Presencing: Connect to the deepest source of your self and will and act from the emerging whole
  5. Crystallizing: Access the power of intention (ensure a small group of key people commits itself to the purpose and outcomes of the project)
  6. Prototyping: Integrating head, heart, and hand (one should act and learn by doing, avoiding the paralysis of inaction, reactive action, over-analysis, etc.)
  7. Performing: Playing the “macro violin” (i.e. find the right leaders, find appropriate social technology to get a multi-stakeholder project going).

If we look at the diagram on the screen. Hopefully, you can see it; you can see it documents a journey through Theory U from collecting and assessing our prior practices and at the same time changing our disposition to be able to move through the second phases of the process. When changes begin to produce changes in disposition and in results. The key elements of Open Mind, Open Heart and an Open Will provide the means for these changes to occur. Changes we can relate to in our own journeys. Now, don’t get me wrong, we cannot find a systematic path that will bring us closer to God purely by willing it, but if all the gates are open, the Heart, the Mind and our Freewill, then changes can and do occur.

Perhaps the most insightful element of this Theory U is one of explanation to me of why so many are living a faith life that seems to meet all the organizational and sacramental requirements of their religious life. Yet, they do not have a close or personal relationship with God. They are still looking over their shoulder at the past, or what others are telling them it means to be close to God. They seem to be checking all the boxes, but still have not had an experience of God. This willingness to see a future, to desire a future of a closer relationship with God, requires ditching some or all of our personal desire for God to do for us what we want. And rather just to be. We can see in Theory U that they describe this as Letting Go, and then Letting Come. I rather like that idea, and there is much evidence that it works in the Spiritual Journey just was well. What do you think?

Copyright Reflection Michael J. Cunningham 2025 with all references to Theory U from Otto Scharmer, http://www.presencing.com