I wrote a reflection this summer on the issue of sanctuary. We often consider sanctuary as a safe, secure and sacred place for us to retreat into. Many would say our sanctuary lies within, and the interior life, however one sees that, is the place of safety we all try to enter.

Sometimes, taking this interior path leads us to see the inner self as a lifeboat, a place we can retreat to and “hide” from whatever is plaguing us in the real world. In that sense, a sanctuary is something a little different from an exterior place or location, which is often what we think of when we hear the word.

In recent discussions with some groups on this topic, some felt that even a new place, but one with a familiar evocative vibe, can meet these requirements. One such example was the sanctuary of a Chapel, where they can be visited around the world, and even if they are not ones we have ever entered before, they create that safety and security we have felt in the ones we have known.

Another way of thinking about the inner sanctuary —that is, ourselves— is to consider what that might mean to others. Have you ever thought about yourself as a sanctuary? Probably not, but I am sure that others have. In a meeting last week with a group of Spiritual Directors, we discussed this possibility. Where someone just wants to meet with you because you are that safe, secure, confidential companion who isn’t going to judge you immediately. Someone who will listen to what is going on in your life, in your heart, with compassion and love. Whether we realize it or not, some people will view you as a sanctuary —not a static one, just a place by the tree or in a Chapel —but a living, breathing sanctuary who will be there for someone.

There are people in our lives who fulfil this role, even if they don’t realize it. You may find that you are someone else’s sanctuary without knowing it. They want to connect with you —come over for coffee or take a walk. We can be a sanctuary to each other almost without thinking about it. So, when someone calls us, and we are tired after a long day, do we let the phone go to voicemail? Will we invite someone over when we can tell they have had a long day, and we have too?

I cannot say what makes us a sanctuary to another, but when we are, we have a responsibility to respond, even when we feel that we are not qualified to do so.

Because sometimes it’s enough to be present, to listen, to empathize; even when we don’t have the solution. Because others may find their way just because you can give them the fuel to continue the journey.

 

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